i had none with either of my 2 children which is odd because i was going to get implants and right before i found out i was pregnant. BUT, everyone was ssso willing to help me then but not when i had children. lol odd huh.
Tons!! Almost too much in my opinion LOL! It was my first baby and it was the first grandbaby on both sides so of course everyone was excited and our family’s all live close. But I’m pregnant again and this time I’m going to take charge more of not having so much company.
My husband is deployed overseas and was able to be home for ten days, my parents took our then 2 year old until we left the hospital and met us at our home when we were discharged. When my husband left at the end of his leave it was just me and my girls. Im jealous of my friends who have had tons of support from friends, family and neighbors but have had to find pride in knowing that I have done this all on my own.
With our first daughter we had a friend come over to try to help with breastfeeding and another brought us dinner once.
a little bit. really my husband did most of the house work until my pain let up and i could do stuff again and we share responsibilities now and his mom came over to help us move and clean and she has run some errands for us and done some stuff to help us out if we cant but other than that we didnt really have any help as far as people being here alot and helping with her.
My SO took off the first 3 days after the hospital and my mom stayed with me during the day for another week after that. She also took him for a few days after I got back to work and caught a nasty cold so he wouldn’t get sick since he was only 8 weeks old. Missed him terribly, but I knew it was better all around so I did it.
My husband had a job that kept us far away from our parents and family. When my daughter was born, my Mom was there for three days after she was born. My husband only had one week off. When my son was born, my Mom was there for five days and my husband only had three days off. I was essentially on my own.
With my first, none. But when I had my twins they had to be in the NICU for three weeks because they were preemie so my mom had my toddler most of that time because his dad had to work and I had to be at the hospital a lot. The twins have been home for a few weeks and I get little help, but it is there if I need it.
Both my mother and father came over EVERY day for the first two weeks and brought me food and diapers. My mother also came to the grocery store with me and held the baby the whole time (almost an hour) while I shopped. I really really appreciated all their help and support, they bought me tons of baby supplies and also paid for our crib and changing table. I don’t know what I would have done without them. However, somedays all the visitors wear the baby out, she doesn’t like all the handing back and forth and sometimes I am left with a cranky baby at the end of the day! Its a good idea to learn to say no when you just don’t have the energy for guests, as long as it is in a nice way. Sometimes I just say that we are too tired for guests today, maybe tomorrow would be better.
My boyfriend works nights so after my c-section i went to stay at my moms for a couple days after we left the hospital, just so i wouldn’t have to do it alone with a huge incision on my stomach.
None. My boyfriend pretty much dropped us off at home (me and the baby) after we were discharged from the hospital and went to school. I did all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, pet care, baby care, and was pretty cut up down there.
My family invited me over to their house for dinner, but I was 2 days postpartum and didn’t feel like leaving the house.
no one brought us food, or came to do the laundry, or brought us groceries or anything.
NONE!!!! Nobody offered me to help and if they did i probably wouldn’t of excepted it because i stayed with my in laws and I didn’t trust them around my baby(they’re big time smokers).
I had NO HELP with my triplets. They stayed in the NICU for 3-4 weeks, which I think now was a good thing since I had time to heal up. I have no family and my hubby’s family is over an hour away. Hubby could sleep thru an earthquake, so he heard NOTHING in the middle of the nite and works 14 hr days. BUT I MADE IT THRU!! My boys are healthy one year olds now!
my mother in law cooked a couple times
i had none with either of my 2 children which is odd because i was going to get implants and right before i found out i was pregnant. BUT, everyone was ssso willing to help me then but not when i had children. lol odd huh.
Tons!! Almost too much in my opinion LOL! It was my first baby and it was the first grandbaby on both sides so of course everyone was excited and our family’s all live close. But I’m pregnant again and this time I’m going to take charge more of not having so much company.
My husband is deployed overseas and was able to be home for ten days, my parents took our then 2 year old until we left the hospital and met us at our home when we were discharged. When my husband left at the end of his leave it was just me and my girls. Im jealous of my friends who have had tons of support from friends, family and neighbors but have had to find pride in knowing that I have done this all on my own.
With our first daughter we had a friend come over to try to help with breastfeeding and another brought us dinner once.
a little bit. really my husband did most of the house work until my pain let up and i could do stuff again and we share responsibilities now and his mom came over to help us move and clean and she has run some errands for us and done some stuff to help us out if we cant but other than that we didnt really have any help as far as people being here alot and helping with her.
My SO took off the first 3 days after the hospital and my mom stayed with me during the day for another week after that. She also took him for a few days after I got back to work and caught a nasty cold so he wouldn’t get sick since he was only 8 weeks old. Missed him terribly, but I knew it was better all around so I did it.
My husband had a job that kept us far away from our parents and family. When my daughter was born, my Mom was there for three days after she was born. My husband only had one week off. When my son was born, my Mom was there for five days and my husband only had three days off. I was essentially on my own.
With my first, none. But when I had my twins they had to be in the NICU for three weeks because they were preemie so my mom had my toddler most of that time because his dad had to work and I had to be at the hospital a lot. The twins have been home for a few weeks and I get little help, but it is there if I need it.
Both my mother and father came over EVERY day for the first two weeks and brought me food and diapers. My mother also came to the grocery store with me and held the baby the whole time (almost an hour) while I shopped. I really really appreciated all their help and support, they bought me tons of baby supplies and also paid for our crib and changing table. I don’t know what I would have done without them. However, somedays all the visitors wear the baby out, she doesn’t like all the handing back and forth and sometimes I am left with a cranky baby at the end of the day! Its a good idea to learn to say no when you just don’t have the energy for guests, as long as it is in a nice way. Sometimes I just say that we are too tired for guests today, maybe tomorrow would be better.
My boyfriend works nights so after my c-section i went to stay at my moms for a couple days after we left the hospital, just so i wouldn’t have to do it alone with a huge incision on my stomach.
None. My boyfriend pretty much dropped us off at home (me and the baby) after we were discharged from the hospital and went to school. I did all the laundry, cooking, cleaning, pet care, baby care, and was pretty cut up down there.
My family invited me over to their house for dinner, but I was 2 days postpartum and didn’t feel like leaving the house.
no one brought us food, or came to do the laundry, or brought us groceries or anything.
It sucked.
NONE!!!! Nobody offered me to help and if they did i probably wouldn’t of excepted it because i stayed with my in laws and I didn’t trust them around my baby(they’re big time smokers).
I had NO HELP with my triplets. They stayed in the NICU for 3-4 weeks, which I think now was a good thing since I had time to heal up. I have no family and my hubby’s family is over an hour away. Hubby could sleep thru an earthquake, so he heard NOTHING in the middle of the nite and works 14 hr days. BUT I MADE IT THRU!! My boys are healthy one year olds now!