And is there any recourse against the social worker who has taken sides and encourages this?

My understanding was this particular “family” social worker was to provide counseling for the child and other family members involved in the child’s life prior to and after the mothers death. To help keep in place family members and their support to help this child through this tragedy. I have since discovered that this “family” social worker has been advocating to the child’s grandmother to limit members contact in helping and supporting this child through this difficult process. Is that really their job? Or are they suppose to remain neutral and focus on the childs needs?

Thanks

Our friends and family play a larger role in our lives than we realize sometimes. Although we may feel strongly about the need to shed those extra pounds and to get ourselves back into shape, it is an uphill battle if the most important people in our lives are not in our corner.

It isn’t like we need “support” or some goofy group hug from people, but we definitely need to let them know that we are serious about this weight loss deal and that some changes have to be made in our lives that may affect the way we relate to one another.

For some reason, when I first attempted to lose weight, I was laughed at. Friends and family made fun of my shot to lose weight which I must say was very demoralizing. I guess they are used to make fun of a ‘fat’ me and anything I did was something to be laughed at. The thing is that such unsupportive gesture will most probably affect your attempt to lose weight and

Research shows that dieters are more likely to change their ways if they feel they have the support of family, a close friend, or a coworker. Along with eating more vegetables and smaller portions, those on a quest to lose weight can get family members or friends to join them to lift weights or go for walks regularly. That’ll be more fun.

The workout buddies can even try activities they wouldn’t have done alone, like yoga and badminton.

Here are some tips for getting friends and family to support your desire to lose weight:
Be up-front. Let friends and family know you’re making changes in your eating habits. It may stop loved ones from offering you foods you’re trying to avoid and encourage healthy cooking at group events. Asking them for help also adds accountability.

Buddy up. The fact is, many adults are overweight and, chances are, you have friends or coworkers who may be interested in changing their eating behavior as well. Research shows that when one person slims down, those around him or her are more likely to lose, according to a 2007 study by researchers at Harvard Medical School and the University of California, San Diego.

Start small. If you’re worried about food pushers, make small, less noticeable changes instead of obvious ones. It will help you ease into weight loss and avoid unwanted attention. For example, at the next family dinner, use a salad plate when you go through the buffet. Chances are, no one will notice your little switch, and you’ll be consuming less food.

Have fun. The good thing about doing things with other people is that you would be able to have more fun. Plan to do something impromptu once in a while. Change your eating plan and exercise regime occasionally so you won’t be bored with the same routine. With buddies, you’ll have more ideas to do so.

One last piece of advice is to avoid unsupportive people. Even if you can’t avoid those people, you don’t have to inform them of your intention to lose weight, let alone updating them on your progress. They’ll probably mock you even more. Trust me, you really don’t need that!